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We live in an age of super-parenting. It’s about the right accessories, the right clothing and the right activities. We’re expected to keep a grueling pace that, let’s face it, most high-powered executives couldn’t on a daily basis. Add to that, we’re expected to be accomplished and able to do it without help.

I don’t believe in that – not anymore.

During the early parenting years asking for help was akin to admitting I was weak and I don’t do weak. My theory was that I had chosen to have these kids and I was going to keep up with them. Not only that, but my house would be clean, the kids would be well fed and we’d all be active and healthy.

I think it was about fifteen minutes later that reality smacked me in the face. The first few times I found myself having to be in two places at once I realized that part of being a super parent was getting it all done and staying sane. For that, I was going to need some backup.

Nothing brings people together like their children. I’ve said that I’ve made more friends through my kids than any other means so many times it’s a mantra. Kids and the basics that go along with raising them forge a network that can be advantageous in so many ways.

Here are a few ways to expand your parenting network:

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· Whether a sports team, dance team, music class or tutoring, chat with other parents. Find out where they live and make yourself available for carpooling on days where parents may be hard pressed to make it. Don’t be afraid to ask the same in return.

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· Encourage coaches and teachers to compile a family phone list (for those parents interested in sharing) so that you can contact other parents in a pinch.

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· Get to know the parents in your child’s class. Morning drop-off or afternoon pick-up is not always possible for everyone, but when you can, it’s a great way to meet other parents. Attend school functions. Volunteer in the school.

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· Start up a babysitting co-op with parents you are close to and trust, especially in your neighbourhood. Not only are they cost-effective, a night out is easier to enjoy when you trust the person keeping an eye out.

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When you’re stuck needing help, the first call to another parent can be daunting. Just lay it out on the table. Let them know that you have to be at a doctor’s appointment with one child and would they mind bringing your other child to soccer practice? In return, offer to pick both children up.

There are so many reasons to accept and offer help. It allows your child to experience other families and witness their dynamic. It affords more time to get things done, especially if you have more than one child. Not to mention, the ability to participate in activities they might not otherwise be able to.

No one understands the need for help like another parent!

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